Welcome to DisABLEd Mummy
If the idea behind DisABLEd Mummy – to show other disabled parents they can be the very best – helps just one mum or dad out there, then it has been a success.
My hopes & dreams for DisABLEd Mummy
Why am I here?
To share my struggles and triumphs as Squidge’s mummy. To show that it can be done and that’s it’s OK to share when it gets hard.
To raise awareness of the lack of support available for disabled parents
To bring together disabled parents for help, advice and support and a social circle of people in similar situations. I would also love to create social support for the children of us disabled parents so that they can know that they are not alone.
My own success is entirely down to my beautiful little family – my husband Kev & our gorgeous daughter, Imogen (affectionately known as Squidge.) You two are my whole world and I love you both with all my heart. Thank you for making me who I most wanted to be.
I haven’t been a mummy very long, but it is already both the best and hardest job in the world. For me, the responsibility kicked in as soon as I knew I was pregnant.
It transpires that as accepted as disabilities may be becoming in society, doctors actually have very little concept of a disabled pregnancy or mother.
In 2016, this made me feel very sad and alone in what should have been my most exciting journey ever. Everyone has the right to follow their dreams and motherhood has long been one of mine.
Whilst all the doctors could say they’d apparently overseen pregnant disabled mothers before, my experience of antenatal care was not a positive one. It was frustrating, poorly managed and at times, felt as though the universe was laughing at me for thinking I could be a mum.
I have created this space to share my experiences of disability and parenthood now they are my mingled reality. It’s hard, especially as there does not seem to be any professional support out there for disabled parents either before or after baby arrives.
I hope that my experiences can help mums, dads and children alike. Every disability and every child is different and will always affect your life differently, but let’s look to help each other. No-one should have to feel that they are alone.
Please feel free to contact me. I’d love to hear about you, your families and how you manage parenthood and your disabilities.
Information on any resources or support networks you have used would be greatly appreciated as well, so we can all make life with little ones that little bit easier!